Girlthrive Inc. Giving Away 5 Copies of "Invisible Girls" !!

The "Invisible Girls" facebook page has almost 1,000 fans.  I am finding that some of you fans do not even have a copy of "Invisible Girls"- So list 5 ways you heal and thrive after abuse- If you already have received your copy and done this before but want to add ways to heal - go for it- but let's give the books to those who don't have their own yet! xoxoxoxo dr. p

Girlthrive Photo Project and Youtube Project!

Hey there Gals!

 Go to the "donate to girlthrive" link and check out our gorgeus brochure.  It is gorgeus because many of your photos are on there!! I am doing a girlthrive photo project- I want to add more photos to the Girlthrive Inc. brochure and also put a page on the site- Let's put together lots and lots of faces of sex abuse- faces that are moving forward, moving on, moving beyond sex abuse! The world needs to see the many different faces of the girls and young women who refuse to let sex abuse ruin their lives!! Just email me your photo and I will send you a release form in the snail mail. Let's represent! Different cities, different countries!

I am also going to make a film with girls reading from "Invisible Girls" - Let me know if you are interested and we can start with Youtube-

Give me your ideas!

You go girls!! xoxox dr. p

My Incest Mother Rant!

Ok girls, I have the need to rant on this blog entry!! I have had it with incest mothers- I have had it. Fathers, well they are men- I do not expect as much from them. Of course any incest father is a total monster in my view- I have hatred and venum for any one who molests a child, teen, young person- But the mothers!! This past month I have had 5 girls call me and cry to me about their mothers. These girls are not my "clients" not girls that I see in my office for therapy. These are you girls, my bloggers, my Girlthrive girls- We know each other through the internet mostly- some of you have had Girlthrive Inc. Scholarships- we connect - but we may live across the country. I have had 5 of you reach out to me this past week because your f&&%$###ing mothers are driving you crazy. They are "reaching out" and saying how much they need you, miss you.... love you. Come on! Of course they are driving you crazy, because more than anything you want them to actually mean those words. But they DON'T. They want to use you, abuse you, make you feel guilty, make you feel that somehow the incest is your fault. They want you to feel as if maybe if you did not tell everything would have been just dandy. They want you to believe that you have broken up an otherwise functional family. They want you to be sorry for the abuse- Did you hear that, I will say it again. These incest mothers want you to be sorry for the abuse! I have had it with these incest mothers. Let one of them dare to call me, let one of them dare to try to speak to me- I will tell her that you are wonderful daughters, beautiful, bright and precious girls. You are girls that have been beaten down by abuse that you never deserved. I would tell these incest mothers that they had a priviledge to be mothers to girls, they had the honor of having daughters- I would tell them that they should be ashamed of themselves, they should know better. I would tell them that no matter how much abuse they themselves may have suffered through that it is no excuse to let their daughters suffer. I would tell them to leave you all alone, and let you get on with your lives. I would tell them that the mother daughter relationship is such an honor. I would tell them to let you wonderful daughters move on. Find new families, girls you all deserve to be away from the abusive lying mothers that allowed your fathers and your step fathers to abuse you. You deserve love and care and support. I have had it with incest mothers!! xoxox love, dr. p

Thriving after Triggers.....

Moving on is about thriving- sometimes there are triggers that are really upsetting- do you have triggers? Tell us how you have conquered your triggers- I talk about a girl in "Invisible Girls" who's father used to abuse her in the tub. It took her some years, but she took over the experience of bathing- she lights candles and plays her favorite music. She has taken over the bathing experience! How have you conquered your triggers!

Apply for a Girlthrive Inc. Scholarship!!!

Hi Beautiful Girls! Start the new year with a Girlthrive Inc. Scholarship!! I started Girlthrive Inc. in 2005 with the idea of college scholarships for incest survivors - 300$-500$ Now we have expanded and we just gave a girl a scholarship for singing lessons, another girl has yoga classes, a middle school girl now has a laptop computer!! Any girl aged 13-23 who has experienced incest can apply- all you need is to have a dream of something you want to add to your life- something creative and enriching!! Just email me at drpatti@girlthrive.com and I can email you the application. and Girlthrive Inc. also donates our book "Invisible Girls: The Truth About Sexual Abuse" all over the country- I can mail you a signed copy! xoxo dr. p

Holi daze..... Holidays Can Be Difficult...

Hi Beautiful Gals, I know that holidays can be difficult for many of you. Some of you have not disclosed your sexual abuse and you will have to face relatives this holiday season. Others have disclosed and your mothers and other family members have told you 'you have wrecked the family'. And then there are others who have disclosed and this holiday season you will be with your "chosen family", the family of friends and supporters that help you through these times. What ever your situation, if you are on this blog and if you have read "Invisible Girls" you are facing your history and you are dealing with it in some way. BRAVO!!!Hang in there, you will get through your past and you will soar- you are the strongest most righteous girls in the world!! Share some of your ways to get through Hanukkah and X-Mass, Kwanzaa and New Years- Also any resolutions for 2010!! xoxo dr. p

Come on Gals Become a fan of "Invisible Girls: The Truth About Sexual Abuse " facebook fanpage

Hi gals! I am getting face book savvy! Come join our fan page!Here is the link-

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Invisible-Girls-The-Truth-About-Sexual-Abuse/116869796414?ref=nf